Blame and praise (nindā ca pasaṃsā ca)
Everyday life practice / Eight Worldly Conditions / Blame and praise
Also a subtag of Right Speech
7 excerpts, 21:28 total duration

Metta Retreat, Session 3 – Sep. 11, 2008

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2. “This is a common scenario: I’m caught in a story of praise and blame. I notice. A voice says, ‘That was very quick. You’re getting good at this.’ I wake up again. ‘Ah, I know you Mara….’ Mara seems to co-opt every moment of awakening to feed the ego. Is there something you can suggest?” Answered by Ajahn Pasanno. [Blame and praise] [Māra] [Liberation] [Self-identity view] [Patience] // [Impermanence] [Mindfulness of dhammas] [Not-self] [Aggregates] [Dependent origination] [Knowing itself]

Quote: “It’s really hard to underestimate how important patient endurance is to the practice.”


Recollections of Ajahn Chah, Session 7 – Sep. 19, 2010

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6. Reading from the draft biography: Ajahn Chah leaves his companions and stays alone. Read by Ajahn Pasanno. [Tudong] [Seclusion] [Culture/Thailand] [Ajahn Chah] // [Spiritual friendship]

Reference: Stillness Flowing by Ajahn Jayasaro, p. 89

Quote: “Where is the good person? He lies within us. If we’re good, then wherever we go, the goodness stays with us.” — Ajahn Chah. [Virtue] [Blame and praise]


Abhayagiri 2014 Winter Retreat, Session 21 – Feb. 3, 2014

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3. “The worldly winds appear quite distinct from each other, but status and praise seem closely related. Why?” Answered by Ajahn Pasanno. [Worldly Conditions] [Blame and praise] [Fame and disrepute]


Abhayagiri 2015 Winter Retreat, Session 22 – Feb. 2, 2015

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3. “How do you practice with painful feeling?” Answered by Ajahn Pasanno. [Pain] [Mindfulness of feeling] [Suffering] // [Emotion] [Blame and praise] [Happiness] [Proliferation]

Sutta: SN 36.6: Sallatha Sutta, The Arrow.


2015 Thanksgiving Monastic Retreat, Session 3 – Nov. 23, 2015

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16. “How are you satisfied and/or dissatisfied with students?” Answered by Ajahn Pasanno. [Teaching Dhamma] // [Blame and praise]

Quote: “Whatever expectations I have are my expectations.” [Suffering]


Madison Insight Retreat 2023, Session 2 – Oct. 14, 2023

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12. “How does one navigate choices and self-advocacy and also equanimity? I often find myself feeling relatively content yet defaulting slightly to people-pleasing and being quiet to get along.” Answered by Ajahn Pasanno. [Equanimity] [Non-contention] [Blame and praise] // [Discernment]


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16. “How does one reconcile perceived imperfections and unskillful behaivor in Buddhist institutions and interactions with teachers?” Answered by Ajahn Pasanno. [Unskillful qualities] [Teachers] // [Monasteries] [Monastic life] [Admonishment/feedback] [Blame and praise]

Quote: “The Buddha set up an institution that was not assuming infallability.” [Buddha] [Lay life] [Human]

Sutta: Dhp 227: Nobody lives without criticism. [Blame and praise]